Oct 31, 2023·edited Oct 31, 2023Liked by Jody J. Sperling
I just came back from a family event and learned that no one in my family is listening to my pocast.
There's a strange dynamic that is employed when people close to you are asked to support your creative endeavours. They automatically reject you and your goals because they know you.
"You can't possibly be a successful writer. I don't know any famous people. I'm sure it's very good, but seriously, you think I'm going to put aside my King and Grisham and Patterson for you? You're my cousin! I knew you when you were making sandcastles on the beach. You don't have a degree in English."
They don't say that out loud, mind you. And I have a nice list of credits on IMDB to boot! I am a professional writer. People paid me substantial sums to tell stories! The podcast has won awards! Best Fiction podcast for the People's Choice Podcast Awards!
But still, "I don't listen to podcasts. Are you on Spotify? What was the name again?"
It's that passive rejection from people you know, who you expect to be supportive that hurts the most. It takes 25 minutes out of your life to listen, less if you speed it up. I'm doing the work for you. I'm reading it to you. All you have to do is literally nothing! Seriously? You'd rather listen to same top 40 tunes over and over rather than play the latest story on your way to the store or while walking the dog?
So, since I'm hosting Thanksgiving this year, my family members are not allowed inside the doors unless they show proof that they have rated and reviewed my podcast and books.
I really like this version of Rich Hosek. You're a little amped, a little intense.
What's funny to me is the filters we all see through. When we met, I had the feeling of star-struckness because of you history and resume.
I guess until Stephen King tells the world our books are his favorites, we won't be good enough for the family, and that's okay, I think, though I am surprised that no matter how hard I focus on my true worth and not my mom's perception of my worth, I still crave her praise…
Damn if this isn't one of my favorite episodes EVER.
I cannot tell you how worried I was writing book 4 - and why? Because I was worried that I'd lost my ability to "feel." This episode is so spot on, I can't even properly respond.
YES YES YES
I'm currently trying to get in touch with those raw feelings again. And maybe that's what Miami is. I've always been accused of being "overly emotional" - but without that, how can I convey my characters' feelings if I don't "go there."
That's what I loved so much about Bogey, about Buckshot, and about (in particular) Suzie Q. It's what I love about Ryan's book (Softly Goes the Water). It's what I get out of listening to music.
I may be "overly emotional." But I want to be, honestly. I want to feel it all. And more over, I want to take those feelings, synthesize them, and turn them into great characters. To "suck the marrow out of life." I think it's through that emotion that we spin the words differently. More profoundly. Being able to access true feeling is where we observe the nuances of life. (Like you said - from pain to insight.)
What a fantastic way to start this week. I LOVE this show. Wish it were longer. Great job.
I think I need to confront people close to me to let them know that not taking a few minutes out of their life to support me while perfect strangers are giving me awards and posting on X how my stories moved them, can be so infuriating.
I just came back from a family event and learned that no one in my family is listening to my pocast.
There's a strange dynamic that is employed when people close to you are asked to support your creative endeavours. They automatically reject you and your goals because they know you.
"You can't possibly be a successful writer. I don't know any famous people. I'm sure it's very good, but seriously, you think I'm going to put aside my King and Grisham and Patterson for you? You're my cousin! I knew you when you were making sandcastles on the beach. You don't have a degree in English."
They don't say that out loud, mind you. And I have a nice list of credits on IMDB to boot! I am a professional writer. People paid me substantial sums to tell stories! The podcast has won awards! Best Fiction podcast for the People's Choice Podcast Awards!
But still, "I don't listen to podcasts. Are you on Spotify? What was the name again?"
It's that passive rejection from people you know, who you expect to be supportive that hurts the most. It takes 25 minutes out of your life to listen, less if you speed it up. I'm doing the work for you. I'm reading it to you. All you have to do is literally nothing! Seriously? You'd rather listen to same top 40 tunes over and over rather than play the latest story on your way to the store or while walking the dog?
So, since I'm hosting Thanksgiving this year, my family members are not allowed inside the doors unless they show proof that they have rated and reviewed my podcast and books.
If it's a 5 star review they can have pie.
I really like this version of Rich Hosek. You're a little amped, a little intense.
What's funny to me is the filters we all see through. When we met, I had the feeling of star-struckness because of you history and resume.
I guess until Stephen King tells the world our books are his favorites, we won't be good enough for the family, and that's okay, I think, though I am surprised that no matter how hard I focus on my true worth and not my mom's perception of my worth, I still crave her praise…
Damn if this isn't one of my favorite episodes EVER.
I cannot tell you how worried I was writing book 4 - and why? Because I was worried that I'd lost my ability to "feel." This episode is so spot on, I can't even properly respond.
YES YES YES
I'm currently trying to get in touch with those raw feelings again. And maybe that's what Miami is. I've always been accused of being "overly emotional" - but without that, how can I convey my characters' feelings if I don't "go there."
That's what I loved so much about Bogey, about Buckshot, and about (in particular) Suzie Q. It's what I love about Ryan's book (Softly Goes the Water). It's what I get out of listening to music.
I may be "overly emotional." But I want to be, honestly. I want to feel it all. And more over, I want to take those feelings, synthesize them, and turn them into great characters. To "suck the marrow out of life." I think it's through that emotion that we spin the words differently. More profoundly. Being able to access true feeling is where we observe the nuances of life. (Like you said - from pain to insight.)
What a fantastic way to start this week. I LOVE this show. Wish it were longer. Great job.
One of my top favorite episodes as well.
I think I need to confront people close to me to let them know that not taking a few minutes out of their life to support me while perfect strangers are giving me awards and posting on X how my stories moved them, can be so infuriating.
A prophet is never welcome in his hometown. It's kind of sad.